I am a very emotional person with a lot of different feelings on a lot of different levels. In my old days I used to let them control me. In a not always good way.
Today I realise that my emotions and feelings are my guidelines through life. I follow the good ones and move away from the bad ones. Good feelings are happiness, love, joy, excitement and so on. Bad feelings are sadness, anger, frustration, fear, hate, dislike and so on. These feelings are all fairly clear in which group the belong to, but there are also some feelings that might be a bit confusing as to where they belong.
One of these feelings is nervousness. Most people would say that it belongs to the bad group of feelings. I would like to say the opposite. Nervousness is a feeling caused by you not being sure of how something will be or turn out. But it also tells you that you care about the turn out of that something. And if you care about something so much that you get nervous, it is sure to be something you want to go well. And you wouldn’t care if you didn’t care.
I try always to focus on the positive side of things. Pick the good stuff out. I always put my energy to the good feelings about something. This is how I live my life, and this is the reason why I always love my life.
However, this doesn’t mean that it is good to completely ignore the bad stuff at all times. There are times when you can do that, but there are also times when it is important to notice the bad stuff. To acknowledge them, and accept them.
I always say that if you don’t like something you need to change it, and if you don’t change it learn how to love it and stop complaining. It is always better to change it though.
You should be happy and excited about every single part of your life, and it is your responsibility to make sure that is the case. What you need to remember is that even when you have reached that point there might come a day when you have changed, or you get bored, or you want something different. At this point it is easy to first slip into the easier option of ignoring the bad feelings growing inside of you and only focus on the good stuff and the good feelings about it. Now, this is a good thing, for a while, but there will come a time when you are going to have to say to yourself that you want something else even if you are happy where you are too. There will come a day when you need to realise that you are living in the past and that it is time to move forward again.
What I want to say with this is this: Always keep your focus on the good stuff and the good feelings, but never ignore the bad feelings. The bad feelings are just as important and they will tell you what it is that you want to change about your life to move forward.